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Life never turns out quite like you think it will, and that’s probably a blessing. The brilliance of age is that with it comes perspective. The older I get, the more I realize that, despite the momentary confusion, resistance, or resentment whenever things don’t go as planned, there is ultimately a reason for everything… Sometimes it’s hard to find the goodness in a moment of misery, but it’s always there.   Look closely.   The rewards at times may seem small, but when you zoom in, you realize that they are really a lot bigger than they appeared at first. Objects in the rearview mirror are closer than they appear… or something like that. Each day, we are given countless opportunities to see the beauty and make it all worthwhile. Life is long. But it is also short. And it’s up to us to make each day count. 

Welcome to Ebb and Flow.  A collection of thoughts on life.  


i wanted to miss him

At the intersection, there was a couple. Their clothes looked clean and they spoke to one another gently. Had I seen them anywhere else, they might have looked like a typical couple on a summer’s day. But under the bridge by the stoplight, a different story emerged. She drank from a plastic bottle, water I […]

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it’s not about gardening

I don’t know anything about birds.  But there are some mornings, especially in late winter and early spring, when I will go out on the front porch, cup of hot coffee in hand, and sit for long periods of time listening to the sound of the occasional passing car and the songs of birds.  So […]

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Learning to fly (tentative title)

I was 32 when my husband and I separated.  I had three small children, ages 5, 3, and 1. I’m not going to lie – “hard” doesn’t even come close to describing what it was like, and there were times when I thought the pain would kill me.  Once or twice, I found myself crumpled […]

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“Since time is the one immaterial object which we cannot influence neither speed up nor slow down add to nor diminish – it is an imponderably valuable gift.”

Maya Angelou