the only way out is through

It was early May, and I was in the car on the way home from work.  When you work in a school, May is perhaps one of the busiest times of year, and it is also a time of celebration.  May means final exams, yes. But it also means prom, awards ceremonies, and graduation. As […]

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There is no forgiveness, only acceptance.

We were in the car, on the way to Marco’s weekly golf lesson, and Marco was telling me about an incident that had happened at school.  It seems he and another boy had a dispute with two girls during recess.  The other boy and one of the girls got angry enough that the dispute got […]

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Commencement speech given for a special young man in June 2013

Note:  This is a graduation speech that I was asked to give in June 2013 for a one-man graduating class.   I have realized that it’s actually harder to write for other people than it is to write for myself, but it’s infinitely more gratifying. Good evening, ladies and gentlemen, parents, students, Louise, Dani, and guests.  […]

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Inspiration from others, 2

From The hand that first held mine, by Maggie O’Farrell The women we become after children. We change shape, we buy low-heeled shoes, we cut off our long hair.  We begin to carry in our bags half-eaten rusks, a small tractor, a shred of beloved fabric, a plastic doll.  We lose muscle tone, sleep, reason, […]

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Inspiration from others, 1

Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future.  – Fulton Oursler The only way out is through. – Various If you only do what you can do, you will never be more than you are now. – Master Shifu (Kung Fu Panda) Well done is […]

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Ode to Nacho

As parents, we go through stages with our children that depend both on where they are in their development, and on where we stand with our own levels of patience, emotion, and energy.   How much we love our children is the unshakeable foundation that brings us back, even after we’ve already threatened to disown the […]

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Leaping

“Perdóneme señorita, pero le puedo hacer una pregunta?” Excuse me miss, but may I ask you a question? I was in line at a little bakery just around the corner from the church, waiting to pay for my coffee and croissant. It’s a tiny place, but it is the only one in the neighborhood that […]

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the phone call

I am not sure when it was exactly that my dad decided his time on earth was up, but long before his body grew tired, and even longer before his mind hinted at exhaustion, he made the decision that he had done enough. Maybe it was when he turned 55.  His own father had died […]

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Building reserves

If you’ve read “lessons from Emma” you already know that Emma is a special young lady with tremendous character.  For the last couple of years, I have watched as Emma, now in fourth grade, begins to shed the layers of little girl, making room for the young woman that is taking root inside.   There are […]

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shining star

My brother, J, died in the month of September, almost a full moon after his 42nd birthday.  He wasn’t ready to go, but he also knew that that was no longer up to him.  He understood that his time was approaching quickly, and it was important to him to have his family around, even if […]

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